What You’ve Been Waiting For

  I know you’ve all been patiently waiting, not that you had a choice, but thanks anyway. First, before I begin, a disclaimer: 
All characters appearing in this work are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

That being said…

If you see yourself in any of the characters described, that is a you problem, and ought to be treated as such.

Now on to the show!

My life has always been sort of a cinematic event. This past week was no different. Yet, despite all the talk, it was still rather anticlimatic. 

To put it simpily, I was Mean Girl-ed. I wasn’t going to write about it, because let’s be real, there is more important stuff going on in the world right now, but it really is great material, not only for this blog, but also for life. 

For starters, you may be wondering what being Mean Girl-ed entails. The term in and of itself is a reference to one of my favorite movies, Mean Girls. Specifically referring to the scene where queen bee, Regina George, is kicked off of her lunch table because she’s wearing sweatpants. I mean, that wasn’t the only reason, but it was the piece of straw that broke the camel’s back.

Now, I wasn’t ejected from my lunch group for wearing sweats, but there was a piece of straw that did some breaking of backs. “These Are Not Your Friends,” a piece by yours truly, evidently struck a nerve with the group of girls I eat with. Apparently, people don’t like it when you call them out on doing shady shit. Especially when you’re telling the truth. It’s easy to hide behind a lie. But when it’s honesty, and I mean 100% pure fact, as that article is, there’s nowhere to hide. And that makes people belligerent.

How was I ejected you may ask? Not gracefully, is my response.

The fact of the matter is plain and clear and really not too hard to understand, though obviously a large demographic is having trouble comprehending it. So I will do my best to explain and break it down even further. 

You cannot control people

You. Whether that be in a group or as an individual. Cannot. As in, you will be unsuccessful in any attempt to: Control. Refereing to any tactics used by you to get someone to act a certain way. People. This one speaks for itself.

I will say this one more time: You cannot control people. 

And, you cannot control me.

Mean Girling someone is an attempt to use hurtful language and mob intimidation tactics to push them to behave in a way which is desirable and beneficial to the group and/or whoever is leading said group. It is petty, and in this case futile. 

It’s intentions are similar to that of the act of leaving a nasty comment. People say mean things because they want a reaction. Look.  

    
    
 
I get about 30 of these every day. 

And yeah, in case you were wondering, it sucks. And yes, being told that “everyone hates you,” and  that “you can’t sit here anymore,” also sucks.

But you know what else sucks? Allowing people who don’t matter to control how you feel about yourself. 

There comes a time when you have to make a conscious decision to be apathetic towards the things which are of little use to you. Mean comments, and mean high school girls both fall into that criteria. Along with “homework free weekends,” which are a farce because teachers just make everything due the day after you get back, so you have to do it over the weekend or else you’re screwed Monday night. Nonetheless, you can’t hold on to that stuff. 

I’m not saying it’s easy to easy to let things roll off your back. It’s actually very hard. Can you imagine having eight people look you in the face and tell you that they hate you? Or waking up on Thanksgiving morning to ten messages all saying variations of the same thing: you’re insecure, you’re a bitch, you don’t have your own life. Can you even picture taking that all in, and telling yourself not to care?

It is hard. But it’s necessary. You cannot let the opinions of other people dictate the way you act or the way you feel. You cannot allow them to control you. Because if you do, what are you, but a reflection of someone else? 

You must be resilient, if you want to remain yourself. You also have to consider, is it worth allowing a group of people to mold you, if it means keeping them happy? Personally, I ask myself this question each time I blog. I wonder if it’s worth expressing myself, knowing that there will be backlash. As you can see, the answer has always been yes, it is worth it. There being only one reason for this: I will be damned if I let anyone but me decide how I’m going to live my life. I hope everyone learns to think this way. Do what you want. Be aware of the repercussions, but do not allow them to limit you. 

Because, as Cady Heron once said, “The limit does not exist.”

You also can’t give them the reaction they’re looking for. I mean, there are so many mean things I could’ve said in response to everything, things that I’m betting most of you were hoping I’d say. But I don’t need to- you’re probably already thinking them yourself. But you shouldn’t do that, it’s not nice to call people names.

Anyway, just a little window into all the BS I have to put up with. Crazy stuff doesn’t happen to everyone, but it happens to me. I think it would be a disservice to you all if I just kept it to myself. So don’t worry, where there’s a story I’ll do my best to share it. 

Despite the negativity, I’m going to keep writing, keep stepping on toes, and you, my fans & my haters, are going to keep reading. Because let’s be honest, it’s not like there’s anything else going on in Princeton. Unless you can sneak into an Eating Club. Then for the love of God, do that instead. 

Until next time,

-Jamaica☆

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16 thoughts on “What You’ve Been Waiting For

  1. You’re not the fucking victim, maybe consider writing about things that actually matter like your article about girls. Great job on that honestly. You complain about people giving you shit but what do you expect when you come at them. No person is just going to take getting humiliated and do nothing about it. I get it that you think it’s right but not all people view it that way and it’s mean to talk about other people “coincidental” or not. You’re an amazing writer but you use it in the wrong ways.

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  2. You are absolutely perfect. Apart from the verity that strikes a chord with every reader, your ability to make people to want to reform their ways of interacting and thinking, is admirable. Some may interpret it as you trying to make people feel bad, but really, their anger stems from themselves, and not you. Their anger stems from the fact that your posts make them feel as if they’re being categorized as ‘bad’, and they can’t deal with that, so they ‘obviously’ think resorting to hating you will change something. Which just makes them irrational and wrong. Ps; To the people who think ‘everyone hates you’, it’s sad that only your supposed friends would say that because tbh, I’ve heard a shit ton of people praise your posts, and perhaps 1 person insult them. That being said, there are so many lunch groups at PHS who would be happy to have you sit with them. So even if you were ejected by one imbecilic group, you gained entry into a lot of other welcoming groups.

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  3. In truth, I have to side with Jamaica on this. She is by far the most honest and courageous person in this school. She isn’t afraid to speak her mind, while, compared to others, most of you hide your true selves behind masks. There are times when I disagree with some things she says, too, but I don’t hate her for it. This is her blog, her thoughts, keep your comments to yourself. If you don’t like, don’t read. You might think Jamaica is a bully, but you’re the bully for commenting these things on her blog.

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  4. If anything your friends were showing the assertiveness that you promote when they confronted you about the hateful posts. A major part of being a resilient individual is having the guts to speak up for what is wrong. Instead, you are telling people to be confident by “letting things roll of your back”. Please acknowledge that the humiliation that some people are feeling as a result of your posts are completely your doing, and have little to do with how confident they are.

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    1. I guess I can’t feel the real-life effects of your writing because I don’t go to school with you, but I for one appreciate the existence of this blog. I find your writing to be entertaining; I neither idolize nor reprimand it. What you have here is very honest and very you and for the people who hate on you, a) if they’re mad at being targeted it’s probably bc they don’t like being called out on doing crappy things and b) if they’re trying to call you condescending, narcissisting, etc. they clearly don’t understand that this is YOUR BLOG and you are writing to express, not to impress (because let’s be real, you won’t be able to find someone who wouldn’t rather rant about the bad things in life than pretend everything is happy jolly). So from a distant friend, I encourage you to keep doing you.

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  5. I love you and your writing and your confidence and power. you are amazing and deserve all the best things. One day when your more than only a little bit famous, im so excited to be able to tell me kids that i went to high school with you:))))))

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  6. Jamaica honestly fuck the haters they don’t deserve your time. Be bold be beautiful be you, honay. I went through the same exact shit in highschool and still go through it in college. You better continue to be your fabulous self because we need more strong black girls like you to put people in their place and call them out on bullshit. You are allowed to be confident that you are beautiful in this society that is constantly telling you you’re not. You’re allowed to love yourself in a society that tells you to hate and change yourself. And I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with you or the way you act – you’re doing you, and that threatens other less self-assured people. “Be yourself, bitch. Step yo pussy up honey. Get a job. Own a business bitch. Suck a dick.” – iconic drag queen
    You’re perfect and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.

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  7. I think this situation just like many others that occur on social media is not the Problem of the Author (Jamaica your writing is amazing, my friends and I read it together whenever there is a new entry) it is the problem of the readers. People if you don’t agree with what Jamaica is writing about, get the fuck outta here. When you get qualified as a professional blog critic then I will cut you some slack but for now none you guys have the right to tell her that she is self centred or incompetent. I would also like to question why some of you people are saying things like “write about stuff that matters” like why on earth does everything have to be about stuff that matters like yo, I got homework and shit to do, sometimes I just want to chill and read about shit that doesn’t matter for once.
    I rest my case, Thank You Jamaica
    Please continue to slay the internet for me xx

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  8. This hate is really unfortunate. It is coming from both sides. Jamaica, you are complaining about how other people behave. It clearly sounds like you don’t like these people. If you don’t like them, why are you so involved with them? You would serve yourself much better by being a leader and not caring what others think or say. Save it for adulthood when you will be in environments where you will have long term relationships with people during your career. These are people you will really depend on. High school social life is a joke. Kids are immature. You will go to college, meet new people and not even remember how to spell the names of the kids from Princeton. A lot of kids from Princeton are sheltered. They are legends in their own minds. You will be better off. I agree with a lot of your comments. The group you hang with is pretty much full of themselves. Why be involved? You are strong willed and charismatic. Do your thing and make care about you. Don’t care about them. Some will grow up, others won’t. Look at all the parents from the 1980’s with the bad hair and stone washed jeans. They never grew up. Be yourself but I think you would be better suited to write about rectifying these situations you observe rather than rant about them. That’s what employers who you interview will be looking for.

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  9. For those of you that agree with the author, why do you not use your real names? It’s easy to hide behind an anonymous post.

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  10. love you forever babe, you’re always inspiring me 😉 Fuck anyone who tell’s you that you shouldn’t be writing. You are literally amazing and I hope you never stop. They are clearly jealous and it’s actually laughable to see what they write to you because they are so full of shit. Love ya ❤

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